|By: Paul S. Cilwa||Viewed: 4/22/2019
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|A few of my Mom's poems.|
A few months ago, my sister Louise sent me a box of my mother's things, things Mom had saved for decades. Some things are merely of interest like the hand-written receipt for our property in Vermont, while others are real heart-tuggers, like the hand-drawn birthday and Mother's Day cards I had given her and which she had carted around the country since my childhood. Among the treasures I've found—and I have not yet made it all the way through the box!—are a few of her poems, including some I'd never before read. Louise was considerate enough to type them up from Mom's faded and old-fashioned cursive.
I was well-acquainted with Mom's poems when I was growing up. She recited favorites when I was little; had me read them aloud when I was older, and in high school, when I started dabbling in poems of my own, allowed me to proofread hers for meter. She almost always agreed with my suggestions (which encouraged me to make minor edits to a few of the epics below).
There's a couple I remember that are still missing. One of her favorites began,
Sunbeams, dancing on the wall,
Do you hear my mother call?
I think it's time that I arose,
Though I don't want to, goodness knows!
I'd much rather lie in bed,
Watching you sunbeams, instead.
I memorized that much as a kid, but I'm pretty sure there was more.
In place of the missing ones are scraps:
Life is but a weary vessel
Sailing on a sea
Sometimes calm in happiness
Or rough in misery.
Most of her poems were not dated. But this one, from 1931, when she was about 19, gives a hint as to why she married so late in life, at least, for the era:
What Have You To Give?
Young man, a place in my life you must find.
What have you to give: a sharp, clean mind?
A brain whose use must know no ends?
A knack to get on well with friends?
Keen wit and great ability,
Decisive will and quality,
Ambition mixed with pensiveness,
Minus fool's expensiveness?
Alas, my lad, with all of these
Only, can you my fancy please.
As your mate, Iíll seek these traits and more,
Or else, young man: your hat, the door.
It's also possible that she simply didn't think much of marriage. After all, her parents spent little time together and my grandfather apparently had a lengthy relationship with his secretary, whom he eventually married after Mom's mother died. Here are Mom's thoughts in an undated (but pre-marriage) poem written, apparently, from the point of view of a groom-to-be:
From Monday on Iíll be so good,
Yes, Iíll do only as I should.
But give me freedom Ďtil the last,
For unto the marriage role Iím cast.
Monday, I a girl am taking,
To do my housework and my baking.
Yes, let me have my freedom now,
For wedded life is long, and how!
According to her high school yearbook, Mom had been a regular contributor to the poetry column of the school paper, as well as its editor for a couple of years.
"Good things come in small packages," has been proved again upon meeting up with "Ted". Such a lot of ability, character and poetical talent is found in this blonde child of tiny stature! "Ted" is barely five feet tall, but her lack of height has been anything but a handicap to her. Without her beautiful contributions to the "Seat of Wisdom" and "Immaculata" as far as poetry is concerned, we would vouch for their immediate failure. Her inspired verses have been one of the main sources of success for thee worthy publications. We part with "Ted" but only with the fond hope of meeting her again, a future Edna Saint Vincent Millay.
Here's one perhaps written after a tough week:
To The Evening Star
Little chip of diamond
Resting in the blue,
How I often look above
And wish that I were you. For Evening Star, youíre near my God
And, too, you see all earth;
You know its sorrows and its joys,
Its troubles and its mirth. Star up in the silver sky,
The sailorsí guide at sea,
How many times Iíve wondered
If you ever envy me. You must forever twinkle
As God bids up above,
Helping make folk happy
While you show Creatorís love. Your work, it seems, is never done,
Nor never can it be;
But even then, bright planet fair,
I doubt you envy me.
A number of Mom's poems hinted at a heartbreak in her past, a mystery that she didn't reveal until just before her death. Here's an example:
In An Art Shop Window
Today I found an art shop window
And I paused awhile to gaze
At Valentines of all descriptions;
Brought me back to bygone days.
Days when childhood flourished gaily,
When my world was free of care,
And I gazed into these windows,
Reading every message there.
Often did I chance to wonder
Which one I liked the best,
Just which one I hoped heíd send me,
And which Iíd send in jest.
Then, I thought, as I grew older,
How you came into my world,
It was then the cards turned misty,
As I saw my grief unfurled.
There, before me in the window,
Lay a great big broken heart.
How it symbolized my feelings,
When we deemed it best to part.
Maybe somewhere you are looking
In an art shop window too,
Thinking in your own odd fashion,
Funny what the years will do.
My favorites were always Mom's humorous poems. Here's one she wrote inspired by our common love of sleeping in, not to mention of sleeping with the window open in a rural setting:
A whippoorwill upon a hill
At twilight makes me dreamy.
But a whippoorwill when all is still
At dawning makes me screamy!
If Papa will but whip poor Will
And not make Mama do it,
I think that I — at least Iíd try —
Could calmly sleep right through it.
But as the sun proves dayís begun
That birdie starts to chatter.
It frightens me. What can it be?
Whatever is the matter?
If Willís been bad, I think his Dad
Would settle him, and not
Cry "Whip poor Will!" from our back hill
With all the lungs heís got.
Perhaps itís so he doesnít know
How unpaternal he
Would make one think that throaty gink
Must very surely be.
For if he did, heíd take that kid
Called Willie, and heíd spank it,
And let me sleep as sunbeams creep
My head above the blanket!
From what I understand of American culture in the first half of the 20th century, a lot of stock was placed on one's "better half", the idea that people were incomplete without an appropriate partner. Mom may have outgrown that quaint notion ahead of her time:
Once I dreamed of untold fame.
The world must someday speak my name.
Fortune would be mine I knew;
I would be everything for you.
Suddenly my castles crumbled;
All about my feet they tumbled.
They were only built on air,
And Iíd found out you didnít care.
I rebuilt them in the rain.
Higher things I would attain!
Iíd grown older…learned to see:
My life depended more on me.
As she approached her decimally significant fortieth year, she engaged in that backward look common to us all:
The Times I Was Engaged
I think that when I am old and gray,
Ensconced in a Home for the Aged,
I shall look back a bit sadly
ĎPon the times I was "engaged".
Iíll dream again of the brown-haired boy,
Whose wife I might have been,
If his English and "huntin'" and "fishin'"
Had not annoyed me so, then.
Of the dashing young Count from Hungary
Who wooed me and won me, one day.
Told me upon his returning,
Heíd have something important to say.
Somehow there was no returning;
It must have been all for the best.
Still, heíll live in my memory forever,
More glamorous than all of the rest.
Iíll smile as I think of the fellow
Who asked me to wed him so often.
No doubt heíll be there, still swearing to care,
When Iím laid to rest in my coffin.
And then thereíll be Milton, God bless him,
With his family, his health and his banks.
Had it not been for them, we'd have married…
To these, my toast and my thanks.
Then one face will cloud out the others,
As it did for too many years.
But aside from these moments, forgotten,
No longer the cause of my tears.
Without meaning to seem too conceited,
I remember at least several more
Who just might have made me quite happy,
If I hadnít shown them the door.
For maybe the doctor'll be handsome,
Or even the janitor, there.
Youíre never too old, or so I've been told,
To really give up in despair.
I asked Mom repeatedly through the years who owned the "face" that would "cloud out the others," but she would never tell me. One summer I took her on a trip back to her old haunts in New Jersey and we paid a surprise visit to my grandfather's best friends, Walt and Eunice Glaesar, now very retired. Visiting them was a guy named Lou Nosher, whom I had heard Mom mention now and then. When we left, Mom explained that she and Lou had once been very serious about each other, and that his had been the "face".
I, of course, suggested she try to rekindle the relationship but, no, Lou had gotten married and (Mom added with a trace of regret) his wife was still alive.
Shortly before her death, Mom told my sister Louise the rest of the story. It seems that Mom had a wicked sense of humor, especially in regards to the boys in her life. One night, Lou came by to pick her up for a date. He leaned forward to give her a kiss hello, which Mom knew he'd do—and had prepared for, by putting a pin between her lips. When Lou tried to kiss her, he pricked himself on the pin.
That was their last date. And, apparently, Mom carried the torch for him the rest of her life. (Although Louise was ostensibly named after my father's eldest sister, the fact is we always called her "Lou", not "Louise".)
Her wedding day approaching, and pregnant (with me), Mom still imagined that she might remain single:
I have reached another chapter
In the famous Book of Life.
Unless itís written on this page,
Iíll not become a wife.
Toward each day Iím drifting,
Without a worry or a care,
For I know whatever happens
Is what is written there.
The Book of Life is accurate;
It never changes course.
God above the guiding light,
And the original source.
When the last page is turned, my darling,
And the final chapter ends,
It could leave us as we are today,
The very best of friends.
So my heart shall not be troubled,
I won't discard my friend;
For whatever is the outcome,
Weíll know at chapterís end.
Note that she signed the poem with her new-last-name-to-be. It was common for Mom to start a poem, put it aside, and return to it years later. That probably happened in this case.
In any case, Mom got married. In an amazingly short time ("the first one always comes early!" as the Irish maintain) she gave birth to me. Thanks to Mom, I have been immortalized in verse:
To A Little Boy
He canít be more than two or three,
And yet he thinks the world
Lays at his feet, a conquered thing,
With surrendering flags unfurled.
He shouts his orders one by one
And knows without a doubt,
That anyone within his range
Will have them carried out.
He clasps his little teddy bear,
And smiles with all his might
Making the saddest heart rejoice,
The dullest corner, bright.
We tolerate his naughtiness;
For each one seems to see,
That if he should be taken,
How lonely life would be.
ĎTis true the world lays at his feet.
A little world, but then,
God only knows; someday he may
Lead that of bigger men.
I was still toddling (and giving orders) when my sisters, Mary Joan and Louise, were born. Yet, Mom had foreseen their births:
Dolly On The Stair
Poor old dolly on the stair,
Who was it who left you there,
Sprawling, Mary Joan or Lou
Tired of playing house with you?
Youíre exhausted, I can see
And have my deepest sympathy.
To little girls of three and four,
You and I become a bore.
They are young and we are old,
Modeled from another mold.
We know nothing; they know all…
Till they have their first big fall.
Then they come to you and me
Seeking love and sympathy.
And, as always, we are near,
Abetting them and giving cheer,
Until theyíre mended, well again
And you and I, forgotten, then.
Why do I share with you this woe?
Because, so many years ago,
I was Mary Joan or Lou
And left you on the stairway, too.
In this photo from 1929, taken on a vacation to Nova Scotia, the young man sitting on the running board next to Mom is one Madison Burrell. He'd spent the vacation, according to Mom, trying to "get her attention." However, shortly after Mom and Grampa left to return home, Madison dove headfirst into a lake, striking a hidden rock and breaking his neck. Mom never found out if he recovered.
It always stuck me as just a bit odd that Mom remembered the name of a boy she had met in her teens, spent surely no more than two weeks with, and claimed to have no interest in. For years I wondered if he be the source of Mom's secret sorrow? Now comes another clue, in a poem Mom wrote after she was married and then hid away in her keepsake box:
Dream Man, whom Iíll no more see,
Please, I beg, remember me.
Surely you will not forget
That summer eve on which we met
Beside a tranquil, pine-dyed lake,
Reflecting hues one canít mistake.
Surrounded by a virgin wood,
There, in this fairyland, we stood
At last the Nova Scotia moon
Appeared above, almost too soon.
The stars glowed brightly in the sky,
The strum of the uke, as clouds rolled by.
Oh, it now is all too clear to me,
Those scenes that never more can be.
For well I knew in that last glance
That this was just a brief romance.
Ah, you were different from the rest
But now youíre gone, an empty guest.
I had fond hopes that you and I
Would never part. We did. I sigh.
As a kid, I always enjoyed Mom's humorous poems the most. Here she takes on an accent (as she did for Pa And The Camera) to lambaste a stubborn car. (Don't miss the reference to the "choke", a control no longer found on cars.)
Did ya ever try to start your car,
And all ya get's a little jar?
Iíd curse the luck and wonder why
Somehow ya never can rely
On whether its gonna stop or go;
On whether its gonna run or no.
Ya get behind the steeriní wheel
With a little thrill (ya like the feel).
Ya turn the key that locks the thing
Ya start to hum, ya start to sing.
And then at last it comes to pass
Ya put yer foot down on the gas.
The car emits a wretched groan,
Enough to turn a heart to stone.
At first ya think ya flooded it
And so ya settle back and sit
And when you think youíve waited long
Ya try again but still its wrong.
It wonít turn over, thatís a cinch;
Ya pull the choke out in a pinch.
But nothing seems to do the trick
And suddenly it makes you sick.
Ya try to think what it could be
Until ya writhes in misery.
Ya fiddle till yer face is red,
And whaddya find? Yer battíryís dead.
Well, such is life, ya finally sigh.
We live our lives and then we die.
That battíry lived a coupla years,
So all ya can do is shed some tears.
Fork out some dough for another one
For after all its duty done,
And at night ya gaze beyond each star
And know that in some angelís car
A battíry that has served ya well
Went up there instead of…
Where ya sent it.
And as she anticipated her seniority and the fading of her faculties, Mom still found humor in attempting to maintain contact with old friends:
A Letter To One Old Friend From Another
Just a line to say Iím living,
That Iím not among the dead;
Though Iím getting more forgetful
And more mixed up in the head.
Sometimes I canít remember
When standing at the stair
If I must go up for something
Or Iíve just come down from there.
And before the "fridge" so often
Is my poor mind filled with doubt.
Have I just put food away, or have I
Come to take some out?
And then at times itís dark out
With my night cap on my head,
I donít know if Iím retiring,
Or just getting out of bed.
So, if itís my turn to write you,
Thereís no need in getting sore;
I may think that I have written
And donít want to be a bore.
Just remember, I do love you,
And I wish that you were here.
But now, itís nearly mail time
So I must say goodbye, dear.
Now I'm standing by the mail box
With a face so very red;
Instead of mailing you my letter
I have opened it, instead.
If the hallmark of a successful life can be that it continues to bring joy to people even after it's ended, then Mom's life, thanks in no small part to her poetry, can said to be a successful one.